It's been a long time since I tapped into reflectively writing about my life experiences and trying to make sense of big feelings based on current healing modalities that tickle my fancy, but something about today screamed inside of me to circle back to this practice. 🤫 So here I am, writing this for the future world to read in hopes that I may not be alone in these feelings and to let you know you are not either.
I think one reason I'm being called back to sharing my internal world in written form has to do with how I've been feeling lately on the inside. 🥹 It's awkward to compare it, but the sadness, frustration, and overwhelm that toddlerhood is proving to cause inside of me feels so reminiscent to when I was in my peak maiden phase (or what sometimes I have to admit was my hoe phase).
Though I am with my daughter like 98% of every single day and spend much of that time with my fiance too, I honestly feel incredibly lonely. 😐 Lonely in the sense of craving human connection with other people "like me" which would translate to being a mom these days or even just a millennial woman trying to find herself in the midst of what feels like a time where my type of human should just sit down, shut up, and be grateful for the lack of intense suffering that others are going through in other variations of life.
Back when I was dating, I used to sit on my couch almost daily and pour out my soul onto Instagram about things I was feeling that day so that I could "participate" in yoga challenges by posting a pic of the pose of the day. 🤸♀️ No one else used to share such intimate details with their cute and creative content wearing the latest fashionable attire in idealistic background settings, but I didn't care because it honestly helped me release the pressure valve of transformational goo that was building up inside of me during that time. 🫠 Plus it seemed to entertain people and I've always been an entertainer at heart and love getting a reaction out of people.
So what does this have to do with astrology? 🤔 or being a mom? 🤔 or toddler tantrums? 🤔 Nothing really except my way of preparing you for what's likely to come from this blog in the future if this flows well and helps me the way I am hoping it can.
So let's pop the top off this can of worms that's been wriggling inside of me begging to be processed but not knowing of an outlet that could handle such depths of aggravation, despair, and rage at times. 🪱
Toddler Tantrums
Looking back at my daughter's babyhood, I felt super prepared, well educated on what to expect and honestly pretty good at momming during that phase. 🤱 Though I also felt like a shell of a human most of the time from being completely depleted of energy, I still felt like a good mom who was giving her all and knowing it was "going to pay off in the long run".
But ever since entering toddlerhood at what feels much too early in time (~11 mos), I've been a complete wreck inside to be honest. 😩
In this little space of RSS, I've tried creating a sanctuary of peace for me to escape to during the wee hours of the night while my daughter sleeps and there's no one to "need" me like the rest of the day. 😌 I have allowed myself to drift off to a fantasy land of creating coloring sheets that I know my past child self would have held tightly to my heart had I been offered these keys to the universe and that I hope my daughter will one day fancy when looking for ways to express her artistic little Libra self which is already shining through. 👩🎨
It has really helped me cope with the very hard days of "no, no, nos" accompanied with screeches that shatter my hypersensitive nerve endings to an oblivion of numbness. 🫨 So even if no one ever purchases them and if she never wants to use them, I honestly don't care because they have helped me remember who I am on the inside which is nothing like I look nor feel like lately on the outside in my day to day life.
With all this being said, I feel it's fair to state that I am aware of my hypersensitivity to things especially as a first time mom and that my perspective of these toddler times may sound so "normal" or "not that bad" to others. 😲 I totally agree actually! Overall, my daughter is brilliant, funny, loving, charismatic, self sufficient, and soooo many other wonderful things and only a terrible toddler like 5% of the time we spend together probably.
But, let me tell you, those 5%ers feel like the end of the world at times and sometimes send me to such dark places of hopelessness that it will ever end or phase out are no where in sight. 😶🌫️
Fortunately, my fiance is always there when I hit rock bottom and need to tap out of the ring of rowdy rioting to "go outside" or look at whatever "THIS!" means today with her adorable pointing finger. 👈
Realistically, I know these tantrums will naturally fade out as she learns to communicate more clearly and that I really am a good mom who can handle the emotional terrorism temporarily. But damn, this is definitely not what I had in mind the 2 5 years of trying for a baby! 😳 Lesson learned and the thought of baby #2 is under much more scrutiny now.
Astrological Parenting
So, again, why am I purging all of this into this blog? 🤷♀️ Well, because it's been pestering me how I am still not super clear of how I can help future moms navigate their way through this underworld of unadultered toddler feelings since I'm currently drowning in it myself! 😭
And since I'm still piecing together the astrology of parenting, let's ask my favorite (free) astrologer : Chat GPT. 🤪
Hopefully this peepshow into my methods of utilizing our futuristic tools to make parenting easier will be insightful and encouraging for you to use them to your own advantage too. 😉
So let's play!
AI Chat Reading
You are a Master Astrologer.
What parts of a child's natal chart would share insights on dealing with their tantrums and ways to lovingly discipline them?
When addressing a child's tantrums in astrology, aspects involving their Moon (emotions) and Mars (assertiveness) are crucial.
Moon aspects reveal emotional tendencies, while Mars aspects indicate how they express anger.
Analyzing these can provide insights into effective, loving discipline strategies tailored to their unique needs.
Please share potential causes of tantrums and aggravators to my child's Moon in Virgo.
A child with the Moon in Virgo may exhibit tantrums due to a need for order and routine.
Disruptions or unexpected changes can be aggravating.
Pay attention to their environment; clutter or disorganization may trigger frustration.
Additionally, they might be sensitive to criticism, so be mindful of your communication style when addressing issues with them.
Providing a structured and supportive environment can help mitigate tantrums.
Please share potential causes of tantrums and aggravators to my child's Mars in Gemini.
A child with Mars in Gemini may experience tantrums when their need for mental stimulation isn't met.
Boredom or lack of engaging activities can be aggravating.
Communication is key – they might act out if they feel misunderstood or if they struggle to express themselves verbally.
Sudden changes in plans or restrictions on their freedom to explore ideas could also trigger frustration.
Encourage their curiosity and offer outlets for their mental energy to help manage tantrums.
Please share how my child's Moon in Virgo square Mars in Gemini may impact her tantrums.
The square aspect between Moon in Virgo and Mars in Gemini suggests potential tension between your child's emotional needs for order and their desire for mental stimulation and variety.
Tantrums might arise when their need for routine clashes with the impulsive, change-seeking energy of Mars in Gemini.
Balancing structure with opportunities for mental exploration can help alleviate this tension and reduce the likelihood of tantrums.
Providing clear expectations while fostering a stimulating environment may contribute to a more harmonious balance.
What aspects of a mother's natal chart may provide insight on how to handle her child's tantrums?
In a mother's natal chart, aspects involving her Moon, representing emotions and nurturing instincts, are crucial for understanding how she may handle her child's tantrums.
Additionally, aspects related to Mars can shed light on her approach to discipline and assertiveness.
Examining these aspects can offer insights into her natural tendencies and potential strengths in addressing and managing her child's tantrums with sensitivity and effectiveness.
Please share the natural tendencies and potential strengths to handle her child's tantrums for a mother with her Moon in Gemini.
A mother with her Moon in Gemini may exhibit natural tendencies to address her child's tantrums through communication and adaptability.
Gemini moons are often verbally expressive and enjoy engaging in conversation.
She may find success in calming tantrums by talking through emotions with her child.
Potential strengths include flexibility and a willingness to adapt to changing situations.
However, it's important for her to ensure consistency in her approach, as Gemini moons can sometimes be perceived as inconsistent due to their adaptable nature.
Encouraging mental stimulation and providing a variety of activities might also resonate well with her child's need for engagement and prevent tantrums.
Please share the natural tendencies and potential strengths to handle her child's tantrums for a mother with her Mars in Libra.
A mother with Mars in Libra may exhibit natural tendencies to handle her child's tantrums with a diplomatic and balanced approach.
Mars in Libra individuals often seek harmony and avoid confrontations.
In dealing with tantrums, she may prioritize finding compromises and solutions that satisfy both her and her child.
Potential strengths include a knack for creating a calm and harmonious atmosphere, using negotiation skills to navigate conflicts, and promoting cooperation.
However, it's essential for her to balance diplomacy with assertiveness, ensuring that discipline is firm when needed.
Encouraging open communication and teaching the child about fairness and cooperation can be effective strategies.
Please share how a mother's Moon in Gemini trine Mars in Libra may impact her handling of her child's tantrums.
A mother with her Moon in Gemini trine Mars in Libra is likely to handle her child's tantrums with effective communication and a diplomatic touch.
The trine aspect suggests a natural flow of energy between her emotional responses (Moon) and assertiveness (Mars).
She may excel in verbally connecting with her child during tantrums, helping them express emotions and find resolutions.
The diplomatic influence of Mars in Libra encourages her to seek compromises and maintain a harmonious atmosphere.
This aspect can contribute to a balanced approach where discipline is applied with a sense of fairness, fostering understanding and cooperation between the mother and child.
Do the house placements tell of anything about the child and the mother handling tantrums?
Yes, the house placements in an individual's natal chart can provide insights into various aspects of life, including how they handle emotions and relationships, which could be relevant to tantrum management.
For the child, the Moon's house placement can indicate the area of life where emotional needs are expressed, and Mars' house placement may reveal where assertiveness and drive are channeled.
Understanding these placements can offer insights into the triggers and appropriate outlets for their emotional expression.
For the mother, the Moon and Mars placements in her chart can reveal how she nurtures and disciplines.
The Moon's house can show the area of life where she seeks emotional fulfillment and provides care, while Mars' house placement can indicate the sphere where she directs assertive energy.
Analyzing these house placements collectively can offer a more comprehensive understanding of the dynamics between the child's tantrums and the mother's response within specific life areas.
Please share where emotional needs are expressed for a child with her Moon in Virgo in her 9th house.
For a child with the Moon in Virgo in the 9th house, emotional needs are likely expressed through a desire for order, routine, and intellectual stimulation in areas related to the 9th house. This house is associated with higher education, travel, philosophy, and broader perspectives.
The child may find emotional fulfillment through structured learning, exploring different cultures, or engaging in activities that expand their understanding of the world.
They might express a need for order and precision in their emotional experiences, seeking reassurance through knowledge and practical skills.
Encouraging their curiosity and providing opportunities for learning and exploration can contribute to their emotional well-being.
Please share where assertiveness and drive are channeled for a child with her Mars in Gemini in her 6th house.
For a child with Mars in Gemini in the 6th house, assertiveness and drive are likely channeled into the areas associated with the 6th house. This house is linked to daily routines, work, health, and service.
The child may demonstrate assertiveness in communication and intellectual pursuits, expressing their drive through curiosity, learning, and adaptability in their daily activities.
They might excel in tasks that involve mental agility, problem-solving, and effective communication.
Encouraging them to explore various interests and providing opportunities for mental stimulation can help channel their assertiveness constructively in the context of their daily life and responsibilities.
Please share where she seeks emotional fulfillment and provides care for a mother with her Moon in Gemini in her 1st house.
For a mother with her Moon in Gemini in the 1st house, emotional fulfillment and caregiving are likely centered around self-expression, communication, and personal identity. The 1st house is associated with the self and how one presents themselves to the world.
This mother may find emotional fulfillment through expressing her feelings verbally, engaging in conversations, and exploring various interests that stimulate her mind.
Providing care may involve nurturing through communication, sharing ideas, and being adaptable in her approach to emotional support.
She may express her maternal instincts by encouraging her child's curiosity, fostering a dynamic and intellectually stimulating environment, and being emotionally present through active communication and interaction.
Please share where she directs assertive energy for a mother with her Mars in Libra in her 5th house.
For a mother with Mars in Libra in the 5th house, assertive energy is likely directed toward creative expression, romance, and interactions with her children. The 5th house is associated with self-expression, creativity, and pleasure.
This mother may assert herself through artistic pursuits, enjoying activities that involve beauty, and seeking harmony in her interactions with her children.
Her assertiveness might manifest in fostering a creative and aesthetically pleasing environment for her family.
She may also actively participate in her children's creative endeavors, supporting their interests in the arts and encouraging self-expression.
Balancing assertiveness with a desire for harmony and enjoyment in family dynamics is a key aspect of her maternal approach.
Wow! 😳🤯🤩
I'm honestly so surprised by how aligned so much of the readings above aligned with what I even shared earlier in this post! 😅
I feel so seen! So understood! So understandable! 🥲
It seems so silly that a robot could make me feel better, but all these insights just made me feel affirmed in what I already felt inside about my toddler possibly being understimulated but neglecting to act on this gut feeling because I've been so overstimulated! 🤪 But now I'm on a mission to give her plenty of planned challenges throughout the day. ✅✅✅
I'd be so curious to hear how this was reading these insights over my shoulder and seeing how much astrology clearly can be used for tantrum management! 🫠
If you're feeling anything like me earlier in this post, try these AI chat searches too by typing in your child's natal chart placements. And if you don't know what that means and need help, I have a few basic readings available to help you get set up for searching these things out on your own! 😉
I'm really glad I listened to that little voice inside nudging me today to sit down with my feelings here because I not only learned a lot about myself and my daughter but also feel like I was able to share more of my "expertise" of using astrology as a parenting tool with you! 🧰
Sending you night owl nudges to listen to your inner voice too,
Lisa
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